It is not decided to increase the family from one day to the next and, when you are finally convinced that the time has come, it seems that nature eludes you and you cannot get pregnant.
It is common, because there are many factors that influence the pregnancy test to delay in showing the desired positive. This waiting causes many women to become anxious and even obsess about becoming pregnant without any medical reason that prevents pregnancy.
But it is that achieving a pregnancy depends on many things. For example, if you have been taking the pill or another hormonal contraceptive for a long time, your body has to regain its natural cycle.
However, there are some healthy lifestyle habits that can increase your chances of getting pregnant. Here are some tips to help you get pregnant sooner.
1.- Adopt healthy habits
If you decide that you want to have a baby, before trying you must prepare your body. The first thing is to start by abandoning potentially harmful habits, such as smoking, using alcohol or drugs, and staying up late.
It is a good time to lose those extra pounds and begin to exercise gradually if we did not do it.
In case you didn’t know, both extreme thinness and being overweight can affect fertility, since they often cause menstrual disorders. Ideally, your body mass index (BMI) should be between 20-25.
2.- Follow a healthy balanced diet
“If a woman eats more than she should or ignorantly skips meals, she will gain weight, which implies greater production of insulin and androgens and, therefore, decreased fertility.”
This is how Dr. Jan Tesarik, director of the Margen Clinic, explains the importance of not eating more than necessary, but also not less, since diets low in fat and protein (for example) can also harm fertility. Ideally, seek balance.
It is interesting to reduce the consumption of fried foods and fats, and not to abuse salt, sugar, coffee, tea, cola and caffeine. Of course, try to introduce foods rich in folic acid into your diet.
3.- Tune-up of the father
The future dad also has to adopt a healthy life so that the chances of pregnancy increase.
Not only does alcohol not arouse libido, it also weakens semen and causes erection problems.
Other ways to improve male fertility is through a healthy diet and exercise. In fact, obesity is one of the causes of infertility.
And to improve the quality of the sperm, it is better to avoid an increase in temperature in the genital area caused by clothing that is too tight or to remain seated for a long time.
4.- Request a preconception consultation
A visit to the gynecologist is always recommended before seeking pregnancy. This consultation is used to prepare the optimal state of health of the mother in order to face the pregnancy, to update her gynecological history, receive the corresponding medical advice…
If in your case you also suffer from a chronic disease such as diabetes, heart problems, thyroid…, then the preconception visit is essential to keep a closer control when the pregnancy arrives and not to put the pregnancy at risk.
5.- Don’t forget to take folic acid
The gynecologist will prescribe folic acid supplementation. This nutrient participates in the formation of the maternal tissues of pregnancy, it can help the mother to prepare her body and have the correct levels of folates in the previous stage and in the first months of pregnancy.
The ideal period for this pharmacological supplementation is from at least two months before the beginning of pregnancy, until the 12th week of gestation.
Furthermore, the closure of the neural tube of the fetus occurs between days 22 and 28 ² of gestation, a time when many women still do not know they are pregnant.
6.- Know your menstrual cycle
It is not advisable for the couple to be aware of the calendar, but it is practical to know the cycle and the fertile days, because it varies from one woman to another, and even in the same woman it can vary from one month to another.
A regular cycle has an average duration of 28 days from the first day of menstruation, but it is considered normal to last between 21 and 35 days.
From the first day of the period until the middle of the cycle there is an increase in estrogens. A new egg begins to mature and days later it is expelled by the ovary. During the days when the ovum travels down the fallopian tubes to the uterus, ovulation occurs.
The middle 6-7 days of the cycle are your fertile days (day 14, plus the 3 days before and 3 days after). If you have sexual intercourse during these days and a sperm fertilizes the egg and it adheres to the walls of the uterus, a pregnancy would start.
The life of a sperm is approximately seven days but that of an ovum is much shorter, ranging between 12 and 24 hours from the first day of ovulation. For this reason, it is more advisable to try it on your fertile days.
7.- Have sex frequently
You can help yourself with an ovulation test to know what your fertile days are, but the best thing is to have sex without obsessing over it and, of course, also the days when you are not ovulating.
Because it is clear that no advice will be effective if you do not have the essential sexual relations and the more frequently, the better, although on this point there are discrepancies among the experts.
Studies seem to indicate that having sex on a daily basis increases the likelihood of getting it and also does not seem to significantly affect semen quality.
In the case of irregular cycles (such as that of women with polycystic ovary syndrome) the matter is complicated, because knowing when to ovulate is not easy. Then it is advisable to have sex more frequently throughout the month or two.
You must bear in mind that the quality of the sperm improves if a margin of 48 hours is allowed between each ejaculation.
8.- Try propitious sexual positions
Although it does not seem that it is very real that adopting a series of sexual positions favors pregnancy over others, why not try all of them? It’s fun, it relaxes the stress of trying to get pregnant when it doesn’t come, and it’s totally safe.
Anyway, any work as long as ejaculation occurs inside the vagina and the sperm remains there.
The traditional missionary posture, in which the woman is below and the man above, is perhaps the most appropriate to achieve this.
If you have sex standing up and the semen comes out, it is more difficult for it to reach the egg (although there will be remains inside that could).
The extent to which a woman keeps her legs elevated after making love to encourage the sperm to reach the egg is useless according to recent studies, although it does not hurt to try.
9.- Out of stress
Stress is one of the factors that makes pregnancy more difficult. Women with high tension tend to have irregular menstrual cycles and men tend to have a decrease in their sperm levels.
It is important that the couple learn to relax in order to improve their relationships. Massages can help.
10.- Avoid obsessing over looking for the baby
Often times, when the couple fails to get pregnant, it creates extra stress. Thus, one enters an endless wheel, since stress produces infertility and infertility generates stress.
Therefore, try to reduce anxiety and enjoy your relationships without thinking about pregnancy. Many times, when the troubled couple relaxes, the baby arrives.
11.- Ask for specialized help if the pregnancy is delayed a lot
Pregnancy usually takes an average of six months to arrive. We do not have to worry if, despite following these tips, the test does not come back positive. It is recommended to seek help one year after seeking pregnancy if you are under 35 years of age or after six months if you are over that age.
A medical control will be able to determine if there is any physiological difficulty and in any case, if in the end the woman still does not achieve pregnancy, the possibility of going to assisted reproduction techniques will be evaluated.
Remember that sometimes a good deal of patience is necessary. Look for pregnancy and good luck.
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