Fun fact: Masturbation can be awesome! In fact, a lot of teenagers do, and enjoying it doesn’t make you weird. So why masturbate? Teen sexual health outlet Sex Etc said it best. “Masturbation is a great way to learn about your body and your sexual feelings without the complications that can arise when you have sex or do sexual things with another person.” You can feel good without having to worry about risks like an unwanted pregnancy or getting an STD.
So if you’re wondering how you get aroused or what arousal feels like, masturbation is a great way to dip your toe into learning new parts of the body. And when I say new parts, I mean more than just your genitals. Your body has several erogenous zones, which are areas of your body that are more sensitive than others. Think: your ears, neck, inner thighs, nipples. the list goes on.
In addition to learning about your body, masturbation will also help you understand a bit more which settings put you in the mood. You may like to listen to sensual music and dim the lights before attempting to masturbate. Perhaps there is a time of day when you feel particularly excited. Maybe there is literary fiction that makes you feel all things. Don’t be afraid to experiment and see what works for you. There is no right or wrong way to masturbate!
Because you’ve had a bad day, because you need to relax, because you feel like it. Women also have the possibility of enjoying sex alone. Get to know the best female masturbation techniques and all Tantric sex (sexual yoga) and masturbation!
Sex doesn’t have to be limited to moments of intimacy with your partner. You too can know pleasure in solitude. Exploring your body will help you get to know it better and allow you to enjoy sex with your partner even more. If you suffer from anorgasmia (Anorgasmia is the medical term for regular difficulty reaching orgasm after ample sexual stimulation), masturbation can help you overcome it because it will help you to know yourself better, you will know orgasm alone and you will end up knowing what really causes you pleasure.
Therefore, in this article, we explain everything you need to know about female masturbation: when do women usually start masturbating, how often they do it, what are the best female masturbation techniques, and everything about tantric sex and masturbation.
So if your sex education class skipped the topic of masturbation, don’t worry, we spoke to a health and sexuality educator in, NY to find out everything you need to know.
15 things every girl should know about masturbation
- Masturbation refers to touching your own body for sexual pleasure. Such as the vulva, clitoris, labia, vagina, breasts, or anus.
- It involves more than just your vagina. Your sex education classes may have overlooked the clitoris, but most people actually experience pleasure through clitoral stimulation, not vaginal penetration.
- It is totally normal. A study in 2011 found that 58 percent of girls ages 14 to 17 have masturbated at least once.
- Boys do it too. The same study found that 80 percent of boys ages 14 to 17 have masturbated at least once.
- It doesn’t make you a bad / weird / thick person. You are not a weirdo or a pervert. It’s not weird or gross. On the other hand, if you don’t masturbate, that doesn’t mean you’re a prude or that there’s something wrong with you. It is something totally normal that can help you explore your body and be more in tune with it, but if it is not for you, NBD. What really counts as sex?
- It is a useful way to learn about your body. No two bodies are the same, so no two people like the exact same rhythms or movements. It will take a bit of trial and error to figure out exactly what works for you, and it’s easier to do it without the pressure of having a partner right in front of you. “You can learn about your body before you have sex with a partner, and then in the future, you can show your partner what you like”.
- You could have an orgasm. When a person wakes up, their muscles tense. An orgasm is the release of all that tension, plus a discharge of an endorphin called serotonin that spills into the bloodstream. “These chemicals can cause intensely pleasurable sensations and can make someone feel happy, dizzy, or sleepy”. “It can be difficult to tell if you’ve had an orgasm, as each body experiences orgasm a little differently. But if you think of it as a roller coaster, with the moment before descending being the peak of orgasm, it can help.”
- Orgasms don’t happen instantly. “Don’t give up, even if you think it doesn’t work”, estimating that it may take a minute to an hour (or more) to have one.
- But an orgasm is not necessary to enjoy the experience. “Although orgasms are enjoyable and most people can learn to orgasm, if you like to masturbate and are not having an orgasm, that’s fine too”.
- It is the safest form of sex. Yes, masturbation is a form of sex, solo sex. And since there is no risk of pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections, you can enjoy it without worrying about your health or safety.
- You should wash your hands first. Clean hands prevent the introduction of bacteria into the body. When you are in privacy, clean hands = the best kind of hands.
- Make sure to urinate when you are done. The most common cause of urinary tract infections (which can make you feel like you have to constantly urinate and potentially lead to more serious complications) is when bacteria from the anus accidentally travel to the urethra. You may have heard that you can get a urinary tract infection if you clean yourself incorrectly when using the bathroom – back to front, rather than front to back – but it can also happen if you touch your anus before touching the vagina (even if your finger just brushes the area accidentally). Urinating helps eliminate any possible bacteria.
- You can masturbate and remain a virgin. “Most people believe that a virgin is someone who has not had sex with another person, not someone who has never had anything in her vagina”. So if you insert a finger into your vagina, but you have not had sex with a partner, you are still a virgin.
- Masturbating won’t make you lazier down there. Unless you do it so often that it interferes with the rest of your life, it is absolutely healthy and okay to enjoy solo sex. You won’t suddenly relax down there and it won’t ruin your ability to enjoy being with a partner – both are myths.
- If your boyfriend or girlfriend masturbates, it doesn’t mean they don’t like you. You can be totally satisfied with your relationship and still touch yourself. “Sometimes people worry about this out of insecurity or because they have a misunderstanding about what it means to masturbate”, noting that many people report that they masturbate more often when they are happy in their relationships. So, if anything, take your partner’s actions as a compliment.
When does a woman start masturbating
Generally, it is the time of puberty when most women begin to masturbate. However, this does not mean that it is just as normal to do it before or after.
For example, some children begin to masturbate in infancy. According to the results of the research, between the ages of 3 and 5, 75% of children touch their genitals.
In fact, the exploration of the own body is a specific stage of the infantile development. Boys play with their penis and spontaneously compare it to that of their peers at school or on the beach. Girls can rub their genitals against an object and explore the vulva with their hands. Proof of this is the frequent appearance of inflammation of the external genitalia in girls between the ages of 3-5 years.
The greater interest of boys, and less of girls, in exploring their body is due, in fact, to the anatomical difference. In the case of boys, the external genitalia are more evident. It is a very specific phase of child development, called phallic-exhibitionist. The term “phallic” comes from the Greek word “fal”, germinate, and “phallus”, which is the part of the male body that makes life sprout.
Later, despite the fact that there are women who masturbate more than men, in general, it is the latter who do it more frequently. Of course, there are also women who decide not to do it and others who start masturbating when they are adults.
According to studies, around 70% of women between 25 and 29 years old admit to having masturbated in the last year. This figure is reduced by 46.5% in the case of women between 60 and 69 years old, and by 33% if the woman is already over 70 years old.
And it is a myth that, with the arrival of menopause, women stop masturbating or that interest in sex disappears with old age.
Scientific studies on female masturbation
A study carried out in the United States by psychologist, who specializes in sexual behavior, has shown that masturbation may be related to intelligence. In other words, people with a higher IQ masturbate more frequently.
This same study has also concluded that there is a relationship between people’s academic level and the frequency of masturbation. That is, the higher the level of studies, the more common is the practice of masturbating.
Other research conducted in Australia by the Melbourne Cancer Epidemiological Center concluded that men between the ages of 20 and 50, who masturbate more than five times a week, have a lower risk of developing prostate cancer.
Also, according to another study, masturbation, in men, improves their immune system and reduces the risk of infection. And it is that orgasms present higher levels of an antibody: immunoglobin A (IgA).
For her part, in the case of women, the English gynecologist Laura Streicher affirms that masturbation helps to lubricate and reduce the dryness of the female genital area. Therefore, masturbating is especially helpful in menopause.
Female Masturbation Techniques
Masturbation is a very personal issue and each one chooses the most satisfactory way for him, which is not always the same for everyone. However, there are some female masturbation techniques, some simpler than others, which we present below.
Caress the clitoris with the fingers
This consists of caressing the clitoris with one or more fingers. The movement can be from top to bottom, or from side to side. You can also stimulate only the clitoris or expand the area and make the caress longer. The movements can be fast or slower, more direct and intense or softer.
The clitoris can be stimulated directly, by slightly pulling back the overlying skin, or indirectly, by not removing the skin. Each one must listen to her own body.
U-shaped and circular motion with your fingers
Another type of movement consists of rubbing the entire area with four fingers, not just the clitoris, making a circle. Or make a U-shaped motion, following the area of the skin that is above the urethra. It is a very effective technique, with which very pleasant orgasms are achieved.
The shower handle
One finger-less masturbation technique is to use the shower stream to do this. You just have to direct the jet of the shower handle towards the clitoris to stimulate it.
On a pillow or rolled towel
One of the simplest techniques to masturbate is to use an object, such as a pillow or a rolled towel, to pretend we are having sex.
Squeezing the clitoris
Instead of stroking it, this technique consists of pressing it with the index finger and thumb, or with the middle finger and the index finger. Speed and pressure can vary depending on what we like best.
Many women use a vibrator, or even two, to masturbate. Today, we can find them in multiple shapes and sizes. Even with a little imagination, we can make a homemade one, although it is always less hygienic. For example, using an electric toothbrush, covering the brush with some delicate material.
Tantric sex (sexual yoga) and masturbation: what does it consist of?
Tantric sex is based on Tantra, an oriental discipline practiced in the East for thousands of years. This practice worships worldly pleasures to achieve spiritual fulfillment.
Tantric sex not only focuses on the genital organs to achieve pleasure or orgasm, but on all parts of the body, that is, on sexual energy. Neither sex is superior to the other and makes no distinction between what is beautiful and what is ugly, between what is right and what is wrong. Tantra defends the acceptance of oneself as it is, and it is precisely this that makes one feel free and without complexes, and obtain greater pleasure.
Another point that characterizes tantric sex is that its goal is not ejaculation or orgasm, but to use kisses, caresses and glances to obtain maximum pleasure, leaving aside the rush.
Therefore, the atmosphere must be relaxed, with adequate music and temperature. Then, you have to start looking at yourself, caressing yourself so that desire and passion arise, taking your time to get excited and to reach the genitals, although orgasm can also be achieved without reaching intercourse.
For this reason, when talking about tantric sex, many mention “internal ejaculation”. That is, retain ejaculation, but achieving maximum pleasure.
Also, tantric sex places a lot of emphasis on masturbation, which must be stopped before reaching ejaculation. In this way, arousal is reduced and ejaculation does not occur, and this can be done several times.